Till death do us part

Have been really busy and super tied up for the last 2 weeks.But busy does not always equates to negativity, nor does it implies that being busy we cannot enjoy the hectic process.

I have infact enjoyed every part of being busy for the last 2 weeks.

After the camp, I have been convicted or I have resoluted to bring our relationship (with Rachel) to the next level of court ship and that is to get engaged , to begin building a family cluster and actually, to start shifting the focus of our relationship from "Me" to "you" to "US".

Stage 1 - ME
Most of the time, a love relationship- BGR in this case develops when 2 persons with a need (usually emotional) find a match in each other.The focus is usually on 'I', the first particpant and these needs are most of time general and less demanding , ie. Appearance preference, income, family, race. Because of the lack of details in this round of choice, most relation would not last beyong this stage.

Stage 2 - YOU
By the time the relatonship comes to this stage the honey moon period is usually over and the particpants would have seen the flaws and as matter of fact accepted the flaws of their partners. The main difference bewteen this stage and the previous lies in the focus, where it is emphazsized on the 2nd particiapant , I would say this most likely equates to sacrificial love. Either one of the party may contribute more but the gees lies in that It really doesnt matter I receive how much but more of I give how much.

Stage 3 - US
This is the time where both party have receive enough and given enough and is ready to take the courtship to life parthnership, the expiry of this partnership? Till death do us part. This would be the final stage before the introduction of small little rascals call babies, but this I would think would be the most enjoyable stage. From buying a flat , to prepartion of marriage , till sharing the loads of house chores, till preparing breakfast for each other. That is Marriage I guess.


I think too much of a time we are exposed to the external media which promotes indiviualism thus marriage or court ship suddenly seems to be too pathethic and on the contrary causal relationship, one night stands or no strings attached lovers seems to be seamlessly no frill .But what is enjoyment without expereince, what is gain with out a process or what is vistory without a fight?

Tune to channel 8 or channel U and most of the time you will find the plot will show couples in pain over spiled relationship. Are they really that bitter? IS it really nothing in a relation ship that is worth the effort to commit and by loyal to a single person?Maybe the ups may be lesser then the downs, but isn't that life anyway.

I lived for a long time thinking that marriage is a predestined failure and was cetain in my younger days that marriage is a passe . But I am certainly glad now that I could break off from that paradigm and move on with life. IN fact, towards a marriage life.